{{{{{{{{Gez}}}}}}}}}}} I would imagine that there has been an over abundant amount of hits to his self esteem. He is a guy who couldn't keep a wife and couldn't provide well enough and is probably worrying about the custudy situation with his kids. These are difficult things to deal with. It doesn't matter how much you tell him that it isn't his fault and that it doesn't detract from him as a human being. Our society has been set up to make men take these things a major blows to their manhood. I feel so sorry for him and the pain he must be going through. It is totally unfair, not just what is actually happening but what he is programmed to feel about himself because of what is happening.

My advice? I would advise that you do give him some space. Would I take that advice myself? Of course not, but that doesn't mean it isn't good advice. Try to think about how you can still tell him you love him but give him space at the same time. How about giving him a call and telling him that you realize he needs some time right now, that you love him and will be there for him but you don't want him to feel like he is being pressured by you. Then once or twice a week you could send him a sappy card or chocolates or flowers. I know that is all girly stuff but it does get across that you love him. To be honest, this all sounds like good advice but I would have a terrible time following it.
Carrie

<font color=green>Not knowing when the dawn will come, I open every door.--Emily Dickenson