Hi Bill3, That's a great question, thank you for bringing it up. In theory I should stand up and assert what I will and won't accept, which I did. She understands, but in the end she cannot help what her role requires of her, so I may have to accept the possibility of future lateness and late cancellations.

At least she knows how I feel and will do her best to avoid it. I am very attached to her.

Thank you again for the thought provoking question.