It's true that custody/visitation issues should be settled in court. But I want to add something here. Keep in mind that the issue is between the parents. Your relationship with the father does not give you the right to interfere or accuse or even discuss the issue with the mother. It is only between them. I'm not saying you do or would do this. My daughter and her ex just went thru this. Just saying an outside party interfering never makes things better. I hope everyone keeps the little girl's best interests in mind and makes mature decisions regarding her.