You have described me to a t , ... my meds have really helped ... now I ask my wife if I think I might be heading off the rails , and I avoid social situations when ever possible . ... when he's stable he will welcome your insight , at least I do ... till he reaches that point ... I would tread lightly as he probably will over react with out even knowing it ... again this is my own experience only ... take it with a grain of salt ... peace and best wishes to you both this holiday season .... Tigger .