Well, here's my story.... And unfortunately it can't be said in a nutshell... This is causing me deep emotional health issues... Back In 2003, I met my wife.. I was in the service and deployed overseas... After I came back, and after living together for a while , we split up after we were married. She had just delivered our only child together... About a year later, while she was talking to her childhood best friend, they decided to make it serious and entered a relationship. This guy was not only with my wife but also a father figure for my daughter.... We never finalized our divorce... After 8 years, we decided to get back together because she was experiencing problems with her boyfriend...

They had a very happy relationship generally but when I came out to visit my daughter a couple months ago, she started to catch feelings for me again but didn't realize it until I left the visit and went back to N.Y.. Toward the end of October, her boyfriend/fiance of 8 years moved out and a week later, I moved in.

Here's where it gets complicated.... Due to their history together, she only wants to be friends with me... She wants to have no emotional ties to me... She considers herself single... She still talks to him as a friend and he regularly calls to speak to my daughter since they had a good father/daughter relationship, which is fine....

My problems are, I'm in love with my wife... I wanna be all she wants... A best friend, lover, father of the child, husband... Etc... But she's not ready for anything emotional.... Since I moved back we had sex a few times and hadn't had any in a month... She says I get way too clingy... I'm always anxious, insecure , depressed , afraid she'll go back to him.. I don't know what to do.. I'm afraid of pushing her away even more... How do I just be friends with my sweetheart when all I wanna do is be all that she needs and more? I realize she needs time to process losing the other guy but this is killing me... I can't express myself emotionally as it will lead to an argument... I can't lose her again.... Someone please advise me... What do i do???

Thanks so much