I'm sorry for what I am about to say because it is not meant harshly. However, I would say he needs to make a decision on whether he wants a relationship with this child now. If he does, he needs to take the mother to court regardless of stuff on FB and quit being scared. Otherwise, the child is going to think the Dad doesn't want anything to do with her. I don't blame her for that. Waiting for her to become an adult and all that isn't going to probably going to be great like he hopes. She will probably want nothing to do with him because he's never been a father to her. She certainly isn't going to trust a guy who has never been around over her mom.