Thanks for your replies, yes it is a difficult decision. I stopped discussing it with her because I felt so uncomfortable about it, and I needed to deal with other stuff, which isn't so good cos then she doesn't know where we're at. If I keep seeing her I do need to discuss what's wrong more - how practical she is when I need the emotional connection is a big thing.

She doesn't connect things with the past either which I was surprised about. My group Ts system is to look at the different parts of yourself and what age they are and what their problems are and why, and she's all into triggers from the past. It helps make sense of things. I don't think I can see her individually without leaving the group, but I think I will talk to her next week to get her view on things, and see if she does have recommendations. I feel bad because my individual will know about it.

Thanks for your encouragement about my judgement sunrise, that helps. And it does make sense to meet with potential other Ts before deciding to change. I'm in the middle of being depressed right now which might not be the best time to do these things, but the more I think about it the more I at least need to look into it.