I'm not sure I can be too helpful but I did read your post. I'm not sure I understand what splitting and projective identification are but I def act out it seems like it's worse sometimes; but, haven't always had insight about why it happens to fix it. I think lately it's bc there's been a lot of stress around my twin getting married and her moving halfway across the country possibly and what not. I've been drinking to deal with that sometimes or to relax and have fun; even things out. But I'm lucky in that my pdoc prescribed valium for me which appaerently he plans keeping me on for a couple months from the script he wrote; but it is working well for me... haven't drank as often; and I don't take my meds with alcohol I try an d space it out.... so yea thanks for listening to my ramblings.... is what ur talking about bpd? Cause I have that among other things... I'm also in DBT. Good Luck to you, Danielle