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Originally Posted by velcro003
This sort of falls along the lines of what my T said to me today. I was trying to convince her that i am in fact, an extremely boring person. She said she has yet to meet a boring person, but she has met people who are a bore--people that go on and on about their life ceaselessly, but in a fruitless sort of way. I am paraphrasing what she said, because I can't actually remember her words...but anyway, she said even then she knows that there is a wound underneath that is making that person act that way, so even then she sees past the "annoying" tendency or whatever it is.
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Nice. Thanks for this. Maybe the point really is just as simple as not judging another person. I know I'm guilty of the kind of judgement where I see X in someone's actions/words and therefore conclude that they ARE X. I think we've all done it...meet someone at a party, whatever they're saying is boring, therefore they themselves are boring. Your mother-in-law did something mean, therefore she is herself a mean person. That politician said something stupid and therefore is a stupid person.
Heck, we do it to ourselves, don't we? I said something selfish therefore I am a selfish person.
It takes effort and grace not to think that way, but it's possible.