I can relate! Last year was my first Christmas where I was completely alone. My kids were with their dad the entire holiday and I fell into a pretty bad depression. And even though this year I'll be spending Christmas Eve with friends and Christmas Day with my kids, I'm still feeling the blues. My dad and his wife are going to see her family this year so we're not even spending Christmas together as a family. Her family is always priority.
I hope you have friends that you can spend time with. It's difficult when we want these close families, like we see on social media and movies. But sometimes it's a bunch of hype and they're actually quite dysfunctional and have a lot of drama. So at least without family around for Christmas we can avoid that. Wishing you the best!
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Originally Posted by d.o.a.
I've actually been feeling quite happy about Christmas for once. Now that I don't expect anything from my family, I'm much happier than before when I was constantly disappointed. I've learned to find what makes me smile and ignore much of my fam's craziness.
However, it's little things that remind me of what I'm missing out on. Just now, an actor I follow on twitter tweeted about having a great night at his sister's for an early Christmas drink, and how 'family is the one'. Then in the comment section one person said 'nothing better than family get togethers', and the corners of my mouth instantly dropped down to my knees..
I'm really sad I can't have the kind of family I'd like.. We'll never be close as they can't handle emotions, are disinterested, feel threatened by my true self.. My mum asks me what I want for Christmas and when I tell her, she goes, 'Really, are you sure? Are you sure you don't want something else..' Like, WTF?!
My brother's pretty decent but I've never been that close to him either. He explains my parents' craziness away with 'hard times make us who we are' while I'm thinking I'd be much better off had those hard times been good, easy, light times..
My dad just doesn't give a toss.
I'm still going to go there on Christmas Eve because it's better than sitting on my own at home, but I find it really quite sad that the living thing I'm most (or at all) excited to see is our cat. She's wonderful, though, my best friend and it'll be lovely spending Christmas with her 
I'm sure I'm not the only one in this boat. Maybe we can share our angst in this thread  Let's sail these blue seas together  |