I do not believe that you are an enigma. I've run into the same thing you are right now in which both my T and Pdoc have stated they are not interested in a dx. I had to tell them that while I can respect their interests, it is my interests that I am most interested in. I want a diagnosis (and I explained it quite like you have), and asked them point blank if they will assist me in this or do I need to go elsewhere.

It's nice that they share what their preferences are, but you are the customer.