Yes, every individual I've seen that has diagnosed me with BPD has came right out and said it after only a few times of meeting with them, BPD is quite recognizable. I never asked for a dx and for me personally it's because I just didn't really care. I just wanted to get the proper therapy for my symptoms. If your therapist is going to work on emotion regulation with you, that is great and that is what I would focus on not so much the diagnosis because in the end it's the emotion regulation therapy that will help most. Right now having as many people say I have BPD none of it is on paper it's always mood disorder NOS or anxiety disorder NOS so even if they say you have it more than likely you will never get a formal paper stating it and trust me it's probably better that way until the world is more prepared for letting go of the stigma.