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Originally Posted by ScarletPimpernel
It sounds like you want to have BPD?
BPD should NOT be diagnosed until an adult: 25+? Because BPD presents the same as an emotional delay. Also similar to how teenagers act out.
At 18, professionals thought I had BPD, but they did not give me that diagnosis. At that time, I was diagnosed double depression and anxiety disorder nos. At 31, I asked my T and Pdoc to diagnose me. They both diagnosed me with BPD, Major Depressive Disorder, and Generalized Anxiety Disorder.
I've read this whole thread amd the debating. It honestly sounds like you just want to be right. Even your title: "I'm right, right?"... You seem more narcissistic than Borderline.
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I'm nearly 45 so a diagnosis now would be entirely warranted.
As far as the "wanting" to have it...no, but in my mind the knowing would somehow be a relief. When I got diagnosed for ADHD it made SO MANY things make sense and it allowed me to make peace with how badly I handled so many things in my life. So, in that regard, I guess you'd be right when you say I "want" to have it. It would be nice to know that the way that I have managed to fck up so many relationships in my life was affected by this AND that help is on the horizon though I find that almost impossible to believe.
As far as the title, "I'm right, right?" is mostly about me putting 1+1 together and coming out with 2. For him to say we need to work on regulating my emotions, I just wanted to know if that sounded to anyone else as code for BPD. I know that my ADHD often causes me to lump things together that don't belong or to not make connections that I should. The "debating" thing, being told that I don't know the difference, when I do, put me on the defensive. The fact that certain people couldn't let ***** go and to further go on and INSIST that I don't know what I'm talking about is EXTREMELY irritating for me and yes, I'm going to dig in my heels. One of my character flaws. It wasn't about the being right about the diagnosis, it was about certain people assuming that they know what I know when the reality is, they didn't WANT to understand what I was saying. Instead of asking for clarification, they just made assumptions and then started getting snarky hence I'm going to get b*tchy right back.
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Originally Posted by ThunderGoddess
Yes, every individual I've seen that has diagnosed me with BPD has came right out and said it after only a few times of meeting with them, BPD is quite recognizable. I never asked for a dx and for me personally it's because I just didn't really care. I just wanted to get the proper therapy for my symptoms. If your therapist is going to work on emotion regulation with you, that is great and that is what I would focus on not so much the diagnosis because in the end it's the emotion regulation therapy that will help most. Right now having as many people say I have BPD none of it is on paper it's always mood disorder NOS or anxiety disorder NOS so even if they say you have it more than likely you will never get a formal paper stating it and trust me it's probably better that way until the world is more prepared for letting go of the stigma.
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This is the reason I came here with the question. Because my psychiatrist didn't like me labeling things. Whatever I said, for example, "My ADHD is giving me a really hard time focusing at work - and I get edgy" he would tell me not to worry about WHY, but what. He'd tell me he thinks it's my Bipolar that is doing these things, you see?
Me, I LIKE being able to put certain things in boxes if it helps me to understand. Maybe that's because of the ADHD? My brain ATTEMPTING to organize the chaos? It's really the only way I can explain it.
But I'd like to thank the two of you for the responses. Hoping I was clearer this time.