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Originally Posted by divine1966
Your husband is extremely abusive, my jaw dropped reading it how awful it is, pepper spray and button story...ugh. But we can't change or often understand other people. All we can change or fully understand is ourselves.
I would explore in therapy why you are ok staying with extremely abusive man and it doesn't seem to phase that much yet you become angry and pretty hostile with anonymous posters who only wish you well?
I would definitely explore that in therapy. I would kind f expect person being angry and terrified around such awful husband and kind of not be bothered with what some random forum members say. But it's the other way around with you!
I strongly believe therapy might help. And yes you tolerating abuse is a lot to do with your childhood, you recreate it. Please talk to your t about it
And single people do not need to live on the streets. I am single must of my adulthood , I am 50 snd certainly never lived on the street. I rent an apartment and did so my whole life. One doesn't need a husband to survive and be off the streets. And if you are abused there is domestic abuse shelter. I wish you well
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You still didn't read it all - what he did is past - he is no longer my husband, he is my ex husband. Just because people "rarely" change does not mean they "never" change. Nobody ever asked me about the updates having to do with today - what I told had to do with people criticizing me over what my abuse is and is not or was and was not. At the moment, I am not being abused, I am simply having moments with him that are argumentative or disagreeable - but those moments still rattle me because of our past. When I came back, we both laid down ground rules as to what would n would not b acceptable from the other. I was not innocent of wrong doing either. Both of us wronged each other. No, that does not mean that he had the right to abuse me and I make sure he knows that - because a counselor here told me (in front of him) the exact opposite. As far as why I asked about living on the streets - you seem to have not read all of that either.
No family would help me.
The abuse shelter kicked me out n no other shelter locally that will take women in for more than a week
I have no friends
I had no money at the time
So yes - it was streets or here...
As far as hostility- I tend to get rather angry when people keep presuming they know me better than I know myself. For example - you stated counseling would help me, but I stated twice in my previous response that I am still in counseling and have been in counseling for the better part of 15 years. I get extremely tired of people insisting my facts are incorrect because their conclusions and assumptions of me have to be correct. Perhaps if I jump on your next post that you start and begin making a bunch of assumptions about you and insisting I am right even though I am no professional nor have I ever met you, you would take to it in a kinder fashion? Maybe I should test it out....