Well you asked for advice. You said blame is shifted on you now. Well everyone is pretty much telling you that you are living with abuser. Sure he might not be swinging things above your head right now, but he is an abuser. And shifting blame is also typical for abuser. You don't like what people advised, but what did you think people would tell you?

I don't think it matters if he is ex husband or actual husband. You said you are in a relationship with him. In fact the fact that you are staying with him when you really are under no legal obligation to do so makes it worse.

I am really sorry you were abused in such fashion but unless you are willing to address it, nothing is ever going to change. I am glad you are in therapy and hopefully your t can help you so you can learn to love yourself.

As about living on the streets. There are more alternatives out there than living with abusers and living on the streets. I know a lot of single people, some were never married and many people have no family and friends. No one lives on the streets. Maybe your therapist can help you locate resources.

Same as other posters I'll bow out. I hope you get help and find strength to live a happy life you deserve. Best wishes

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