my T calls me darling and cupcake and we laugh about it. it doesn't feel like a big deal to me. I haven't had a lot of men be affectionate in ways that feel empowering and respect my agency so I like this. it feels tender without being cloying or feeling inappropriate to me. ymmv and I'm not interested in hearing negative opinions about my personal experience. if this wouldn't work for you acknowledge it silently to yourself and move on to the next post.