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Old Dec 21, 2015, 10:07 PM
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Originally Posted by substancelessblue View Post
I told my T I was feeling quite detached and felt like doing reckless things, and when she asked what I mentioned driving recklessly. I said I had felt myself driving recklessly on the way over to see her. Now I feel worried about telling her this. She sort of just nodded, but I know she often disguises her reactions and will bring things up in future sessions that I thought didn't make much of an impression.

Will my T do anything with this knowledge? I mean I know she won't take any outside action, but how serious is it that I mentioned it? I'm just unsettled and anxious about it.
When I get that 'just sort of nod' thing from my T, I think of it as him filing away new information in its proper place. I don't have to worry about what I said being weird, wonder how serious it is, or be anxious about what it means. Because all it was was a new piece of information. That's it. And it's T's job to figure out how it fits into the whole picture. I'm too busy trying to navigate my life.

So you presented a fact--the new piece of information that you've felt reckless and driven recklessly. Let her worry about what that means--it will get digested and distilled and given back to you as part of a wider bit of observation or advice: "Substancelessblue, I notice that you report doing reckless things when you feel detached or disconnected. How would you feel about doing a grounding exercise when that happens?" Or, you know, something like that.

Not sure if this is clear or helpful, but I do wish you the best of luck and stay safe!
Thanks for this!
LonesomeTonight