Well I got the dates confused and the family gathering was actually this past weekend as opposed to the actual holiday weekend.

It was pretty uneventful and typical. I hadn't been to my grandmother's house (where it was held) in years nor seen all of these relatives in years. I felt disassociated and a bit ill the whole time I was there, I mostly kept to myself aside from occasionally talking with my brother.

Everyone knew not to mention my father to me, they know I have a history of not talking to people for months to years at a time if they try to guilt-trip me about my father. They went after my brother, though, and my brother brushed them off and changed the subject. From my brother I learned that nobody even knew where our father is right now, so there would be no way to see him, even if we decided to do so. He could be in anywhere in the clusters of cities in that area, parked somewhere out of sight, sleeping in his car, and he doesn't have a phone.

So I just endured dealing with my relatives and trying not to think about anything too much. They were their usual selves, no interest in how I am doing, only wanting to know how much money I am making and where I am working, nothing else.

Then my brother and I drove back to our home state together. We didn't talk about our father, we talked about video games instead. I think we've already said all we have to say with each other about our father over the past few years.