My experience is more like marmadukes with my abusive father when he passed. I didnt feel the need to see him or comfort him, he was a horrible man. When he died, I felt a flood of relief and free. I also felt guilt that I should be happy a human being was dead and that was confusing.

Its been 3 years or so now and Im still grateful. I feel bad even typing that but its true. I have no regrets I didnt comfort him and tell him he was forgiven, he was such a jerk he probably wouldnt even realize he should have apologized in the first place. With time, I feel less bitter about him and it could be debated maybe that if I had a conversation with him maybe it wouldnt have taken 3 years to get here? But, like I said, I have no regrets and I hope when he passed he felt a moment of regret but if I had to bet I would bet he didnt. He was probably angry everyone didnt apologize to him