I met my now fiance online. We talked everyday for a month and then I disappeared. I had been put ip. When I got out we resumed talking but just said I was really busy for those 2 weeks was really sorry. He became a but distant at that point. A week or so goes by and no communication so I called him to thank him for his friendship and wish him well in life.

A few days later I got a text asking me to drive the 6 hours to see him. I was hesitant lots of what ifs. But I went. After spending about 9 hours talking sight seeing etc we are back at my hotel room eating pizza cuddling and I decided I needed to tell him about having bipolar.

I wanted to know if it was worth anymore time. So I started with explaining the real reason i went missing that I had been in hospital. He asked why of course so I told him I have this illness that Im medicated under doctors care and this illness is bipolar. I watch his face for clues. I said Im stable and definitely not dangerous or crazy. I asked him if he knew what it was and he said. This is no big deal hon, I have a friend with it.

Its been hard teaching him about it when I never know whats going to be from day to day. I know I made the right decision telling him that first night. He was able to deal with me right from the start and I didnt have to pretend or keep things in.

Six years later we are getting married. He has a good handle on my illness sometimes catching a mood swing before I realize it. Hes my biggest supporter and my rock of stability.

One other thing, I also am on disability had just started when we met. I explained I was unable to work and that taking me on wouldnt be easy. Maybe one day I will be able to go back to work idk but I know that divulging this information gave him the choice to run. He didnt.

You take a risk telling your story no matter when you chose to. Its in the delivery.

Whatever you choose will be right for you. My one request is dont send an email or text this is face to face adult conversation. Otherwise you look like youre afraid of your illness and that lack of confidence doesnt always bide well for a new relationship.

Sorry for the novella. Hope you gather something positive out of it.