i only have a couple close friends, whom i've known a long time and am comfortable around and feel no tension at all with. well recently i've started spending time with a few of my coworkers, and i notice that they make a lot of comments about how tense i always am and stuff...... i find it very hard to relax and be myself around them, even though they are all very open and try to draw me in. they'll be sprawled on the bed, and i'm standing to the side clutching my pack until one of them says "you need to relax a little, come sit with us". last night one of them said to me, "are you not comfortable here? would you rather be at home?" i didn't know how to answer. i spend so much time at home alone that it feels like its my place to be, and it feels unnatural to be social (plus i'm not very good at it). at the same time, i was really enjoying spending time with them, yet i was there 2 hours before i was finally able to loosen up a little.... its frustrating because i want to be more comfortable in social situations and with new people, and i like these women, but its just so hard for me to just relax and to get close with people. i don't get it.