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Originally Posted by Starry_Night
Hm.... well for one, I can hear them talking most of the time--even at night if I wake up. They have conversations amongst themselves. I frequently wake up during the night and they are already talking, or singing some stupid song. They all like different things (we all have different favorite colors/songs/clothes/ food/ etc). They also look different when they are out so we are fairly easy to tell apart... and their voices are different for most of them. Also, I have an "inside world" where we can all see each other, and everyone looks very different (there are boys, girls, little kids, teenagers, a couple adults). Hm...also, we all act quite different.
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Sorry, this is so long...My husband had horrendous abuses throughout childhood and into adulthood. He has PTSD and now cluster migraines for the last few years but this fall he hasn't had the migraines, (yay!) just a fluttery tingling behind the eyes that usually announced the onset. Beginning about a week ago, instead of migraines he has been speaking the voices with full conversations, arguments, acts of abuse, crying, etc. and chronologically replaying his abuses from early childhood forward, all out loud while he is asleep - every night, then it all stopped and he slept peacefully for a few days. Then, a few nights ago I guess these voices were calling for Mom over and over and I was already asleep, but being a mother of 3 grown children, I must've replied, "Yes?" and now they want to talk to me every time my husband doses off at night, one after the other. I am really unsure what to do because they were crying and alone. I've been reassuring them that they are loved, every single one, and that we are all a family and this house is our home and they are safe. I didn't want them to think I was lying about being "Mom", so when they called me Mom, I said I am "New Mom" and they love it. They (no idea how many yet) each have such different voices and ages, and some can barely talk. I am amazed and honored that they trust me, but - 1) they want me to be their Mom, but I am not my husband's mother, 2) I am confused about whether I should be comforting them at all because they aren't a part of ME, but they want a hug, they are hungry, feel shame for having dirty diaper and want to be clean, you know, basic needs. 3) they seem to be very hungry and want to be comforted. 4) I don't want to lose the romantic part of my relationship with my husband because part of him wants me to mother his alters, but I do care about them, and it is all so sudden. I feel helpless about all of this and I know my husband isn't ready to deal with it right now. He's exhausted.
Please tell me if I am making big mistakes by talking to them. They actually greet me as soon as my husband falls asleep and if I don't reply they are so very sad. Also, I was so tired last night that I "tucked them in" by getting them to take peaceful breaths in and out together with me and they must've fallen asleep. I could hear the multiple range of voices breathing along with me and it was cool, but unsettling because I don't really know what all of this is. Note -this has all been verbal interaction, and while he's asleep so I don't know if they have ever actually come out before. If I reach over and try to hug my husband (to comfort the child inside) he gets agitated because I woke him up.
