Your therapist sounds pretty ignorant to me, maybe consider getting a new one.

The perceptions of situations through the eyes and mind of a child are VERY different from the perceptions of situation through the eyes and mind of an adult.

For one, children instinctively understand that without caregivers, they will die, which means that not being rejected by their parent(s) is in fact a matter of life and death on a psychological, instinctive level. So if a caregiver requires a child to tolerate abuse in order to be accepted and cared for, that means that enduring the abuse (in the eyes of the child) is a matter of life and death.

This is a very basic concept when it comes to childhood trauma, so again your T doesn't sound very qualified.