Hello silverleaf: I'm an older person who has had allot of gender-identity issues thoughout life. (It's a long story.) But what this has taught me is that sexual orientation & gender identity issues can be extremely confusing. At least they have been for me. I still haven't figured any of it out, really. From my perspective, I think what may be important is to find a therapist who is knowledgeable & experienced regarding sexual orientation issues. It takes time, & guidance, to sort through the many aspects of these issues. Good luck!