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Old Dec 22, 2015, 09:30 PM
Anonymous50005
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First, expressing negative feelings isn't necessarily rude; it's all in the delivery. I suspect if you are worrying about this, you probably aren't terribly guilty of serious rudeness.

I don't think we have to take care of a T's feelings. Hopefully, if they are in the profession of helping us with our own, they have a decent handle on their own emotional life and have healthy boundaries about such things. It sounds like your therapist has had no problem with you communicating your feelings.

That said, I have no problem being direct with my therapist and my pdoc, but I am not rude. That is just not in my nature. I would, personally, see no reason to treat my therapist with meanness or rudeness when I would never treat another human being that way. That doesn't mean I am not direct with him, but I can do that with clear communication rather than rudeness.

Would he care if I was rude to him? I have no idea as I haven't done it. My guess is that he has healthy boundaries about what he will and will not accept from people, including his clients. He probably would have no problem with a client venting angrily, but if he actually felt it reached a point of being verbally abusive, he would draw the line. Personally, I can't imagine doing that to anyone including a therapist, but I am sure it happens and I am sure some T's don't have a problem with it (I'm not sure that is modeling good personally boundaries though, but that's a whole other discussion.)
Thanks for this!
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