Your T is professionally trained to cope with negative states of mind.

It is in my estimation better to say I feel ______ when you ______

rather than

You make me get mad when you ____________

Stating and owning your feelings is part of the therapeutic process.

Your T if she is secretly feeling hurt by your statement or accused or blamed, has violated the basic rule of a therapist, do not react to the patient. Hear and acknowledge.

In real life we are protected, but somewhere we need to bare our souls so we can work through the emotional baggage we collect through life.