Hmm. My middle son was the one who had the biggest problem with this. He has ADHD and a variety of other developmental deficits that I think slowed the process for him. I would just say keep reinforcing and reminding. Try to have her tell you what is wrong in her behavior/space issue when things come up rather than just telling her. For instance, my son used to push his younger brother, etc., and what I finally learned to do was to get him to stop/freeze and then ask him to define for me why I was asking him to stop. He couldn't just tune me out that way; he actually had to think and verbalize the problem and figure out how to fix it. He made a lot more progress once I figured that out, probably because I was placing the responsibility for assessing his own behavior on him instead of me trying to do it for him. By 8th grade things were getting better; just took great patience.