I think perhaps what the therapist is trying to do is to allow you to recreate the parental attachment relationship so that you have an opportunity to heal old wounds and perhaps learn more adaptive styles of forming attachments with others. It's called transference-focused psychotherapy. You'll find stuff about it on Google.

I have had lots of therapy over the years, some of it useful, some of it not, but I sincerely believe that the only therapy that will help me overcome my extreme distrust of people is transference-focused psychotherapy. Which at the moment, is out of reach financially. Added to that I don't want to unravel my life when I have a child to care for.

If you go into this type of therapy, it's a big commitment. It won't be easy, but I believe it will be worth it.