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Originally Posted by Inner_Firefly
Therapy makes me feel rude and selfish.  I talk about myself 100% of the time, say whatever I want, and even express negative feelings towards T.
In real life I listen more than talk, and rarely directly express negative feelings.
For example, I told T I was mad at her for being late. T said she was glad to hear my real feelings. She didn't seem upset, but I wondered if she was just acting professional. What if she secretly felt  accused and blamed?
In real life I would have been more empathetic of others' points of view, and more tactful and considerate in the way I expressed negative feelings. |
I'm sure that therapists feel hurt sometimes. And I'm sure like anyone, they have their bad days. They are only human. But part of their job is knowing their role in the therapeutic relationship. They understand that therapy is about the client and that their job is to listen. They have become quite adept at being able to separate their own emotional reactions from their professional work and then deal with them later on their own time.
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