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Originally Posted by pathway2FREEDOM
Hey Diva,
I thought we would chat up in another thread. I am trying to get away, it's a complicated mess. You have BPD, is that right? Do alot of BDPs think nothing is wrong with them? I knew 2 BDPs that were out w/their diagnosis and they were diag in their early 20s, due to confusing sexual and romantic relationship issues. I have no idea how it would manifest in platonic relationships and families.
Geez!
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I think a lot of everyone thinks there's nothing wrong with them. It's not exclusive to PDs. But yeah, everyone I know with a PD thought or thinks it's not them it's everyone else. The common denominator in all of it is always us though, like EVERYONE can't be abandoning me. I'm not an expert, I just have a lot of friends and family who have PDs and several of us are doing very well in recovery. BPD is a lot of abandonment fears for me, it manifests exactly the same way in platonic relationships as it does in romantic ones - I've been jealous of people's other friends, very hurt if they do things and I'm not invited (beyond FOMO, like "I don't ever want to talk to you again" hurt), really bad boundaries (a therapist asked me once what the difference between a friend & partner was because I had a bad habit of having lots of "friends with benefits").
I dont meet the criteria for BPD any longer, but I still have traits. Actually studies have shown that after 10 years of treatment most people with BPD improve enough that they could not be dxed with the illness any longer because they no longer meet enough criteria. It's great news, the prognosis is actually really good with DBT and if you get help.
Feel free to send me a private message if you want to speak off the thread.
