All my adult life (literally) I've had well intentioned feedback come my way, of the following kind, from parents, friends, family members, work managers, therapists:

"You're too timid ... you need to be bolder in life"
"What's with the 'fatal hesitation"?"
"You must have a guilt complex"
"You're always GOING to do something ... just do it!"
"Why do you have to make everything so complicated? It's easy."
"You're avoiding things again"
"I've never seen anyone so self-critical"
"You're a good person who can't see the good in himself"
"It's like you've had one failure too many"
"You need to work on your self-esteem"
"Stop letting others treat you like a doormat"
"You weren't put on earth just to make everyone else happy" (To which I want to reply "I know that ... I'm not making people happy, I'm not sure why I am so passive")
"Don't be afraid to speak up"
"You have to have the courage of your own convictions"
"You are an expert emotional stuffer"
"Why are you apologizing? It's about time you were assertive!"
"Don't worry, it may never happen" (To which I always reply: "What do you think I'm worried about!? Good things NOT happening!!")
"Why do things always happen to you?" (I wonder this myself, thanks for noticing)
"We need to get you out of that 'shell' "

The fact is, they're all right. I've been this way for too long and I can't take it anymore. I've tried meds, therapy, self-help ... not impressed with the results so far ... this is getting plain stupid. I don't know what to do. When I look in the mirror when shaving every day my thoughts are like "Oh no, it's HIM again ... there goes the neighborhood. Poor sap."

I'm so TIRED. I don't know how to really even define what's wrong with me. I'm not looking for anyone to try and diagnose me or label whatever-it-is, I just needed to vent. I'm fed up. "It" needs to crawl under a rock ... so I can drop said rock on it. With a sledgehammer. Repeatedly.