Yes, I expect my T to be completely honest, and at times that means he will say things I would rather not hear, but some of my best understanding of myself and best motivation towards change has come to me through his honesty. I don't fear his words and I honestly don't get hurt by his words; my reaction is more one of "Okay, that was hard to hear, but you may have a point." He and I have always been straight with each other that way, so we trust each other's intentions and choose to learn from each other through that kind of straight-forward honesty. It isn't for everybody, but it works for me. Rather than dwell on how it makes me feel, I dwell on what I can do to confront that issue within myself.