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Originally Posted by Elkino
I told my T what was keeping me from getting into action, looking for a new job. I said I was scared. T said 'Aren't you scared of everything?'.
I don't think she meant it in a bad way, but I couldn't let go of it. 
If it would be true (I'm quite sure a lot scares me these days  ), do you think a T can say it like that? I want my T to be honest. Maybe just not that honest... 
Do you want your T to be absolutely honest, even when it hurts? |
Hi Elkino,
Looking for a new job can be scary, because there is so much unknown. I can understand how hard it is to get into action.
You should feel free to express all your fears and discuss what is stopping you. I wonder if your T's comment made you feel inhibited from saying everything that's on your mind?
If my T said that to me I would be kind of confused/ unsure what she means.
Was it supposed to be a helpful comment? Is your T a good T? Is she usually a good listener? I think her phrasing is a bit ambiguous without knowing her facial expression and tone of voice. Do you think she was saying it in a critical way, or was she trying to say you are a courageous person who has already overcome many fears?
Let's hope your T meant it in a good way! Will you bring it up to discuss with her? I hope she can be sensitive and aware of how your words can affect you. Please keep us updated!