Aren't you the person who lost your husband this past year? If so, this would be your first holiday without him, right? And wasn't this his favorite holiday time? If so, your emotions seem normal. The idea of "turning the mind" -- it isn't helpful here. If you are sad because you are alone during this holiday and finding it very tough to get through...maybe it would be helpful to simply acknowledge that yes, it is very difficult. I can't imagine how hard it would be to be alone, feeling as you do, and with the responsibility of a young child. Of course you are overwhelmed! Anyone would be. I can understand your feelings about DBT. When I was at my most depressed I bought a workbook on DBT. It was too much to wade through. I wasn't thinking, "Who are the people writing this? Don't they understand I can barely string two thoughts together?" I couldn't even read the workbook. Too many words. Just too many words and concepts. Now that I am less depressed I can work with the ideas presented in the workbook. I am not sure how helpful it is, but I am doing it because it is self-help. For you, I think the most mindful thing would be to extend compassion to yourself. To know that what you are feeling is normal and natural. Are you getting bereavement counseling? It seems like this is something you could benefit from now. My wish is that you encircle your heart with tender loving care this holiday season. You are worthy of this level of care. Everyone is. If you do this for yourself it will naturally extend out to your child. Best wishes. One moment at a time. Hang on...for the you now, and for the future you.