I was just thinking about this yesterday, actually, how she is very honest with me and how if someone else said some of the things she has said rather matter-of-factly, I would have gotten angry or started bawling or more likely both, but when t says them these days, it's fine and I take it in as honestly as it was offered. I think that is because she is only saying things that if I look honestly at my own self, I would say the exact same things, you know like I already know they are true deep inside me, or something. Sometimes she is so inside my head..... but it works best that way....for me anyway.