I have this book right now....fortunately nobody else wants it at the library so I just keep on renewing it. I've read it once and want to read it again. Its a pretty easy read for anyone who's interested.

Its definitely an eye opener! The biggest thing I've taken away from it is that I am an anxious person and because avoidants AVOID relationships, I'm much more likely to meet them at this stage of the game (in my 30's) because secure people have already settled down by now whereas avoidants are in the population in greater proportions because they continue to avoid serious relationships. Of course this just means things will be harder for me, but I think its better knowing the truth. AVOID AVOIDANTS! LOL. This is sort of my new motto because I EXCEL at attracting avoidant guys.

One of my old therapists worked with people who have attachment issues. I started seeing her for other reasons, but she said I definitely have attachment issue symptoms (but I don't think you can diagnose attachment disorders in adults?) Of course, most of her other patients were children (many of whom were adopted). I don't see her anymore, and its hard to find someone else who deals with attachment issues. (And I'm not even sure I want to dive back into therapy at this point because I don't want to destabilize.)

The book is a great read for anyone who finds it difficult to navigate the waters of relationships. I think that if anything it will ultimately end up saving me a lot of time. I will be able to walk away from avoidants a bit easier and I will be able to spot them from the get-go. And yes, I WILL be able to say "its not me, its you!" Ok, I would never say that to anyone, but if you meet someone who you know isn't a good match for you attachment wise, its best to walk away from the beginning rather than try and make things work (it probably won't).