My one ex who I'm convinced has NPD attracts EVERYONE. It's really odd to watch. People start questioning their sexuality because they're so attracted to her; it's ridiculous. I've watched it happen over and over. I think it's because she genuinely doesn't give a s*** what anyone thinks of her and it comes off as confidence. I think people with BPD tend to have low self-esteem, so that confidence, that idea that someone doesn't need others to like them/care about them/exist, it's so intriguing.

With my ex, I've spent a lot of time watching and trying to figure it out and my guess is that people feel so flattered when she pays attention to them, because she puts off that vibe of being so self-contained and not giving a d*** what anyone thinks of her, not needing anyone, that people feel so special that it's almost like a drug. I don't know if it's like that with all people with NPD, but I have no doubt she could rule the world if she decided that's what she wanted.