Hi O2. I think we all live in a framework of societal expectations. In the West and in the US, there's approval of and an emphasis on extroversion and assertiveness.

People who don't fit this mold often get criticized for it. I think men get criticized even more often.

I have been trying to work on staying in the moment. I may not be happy with lots of things in my life (I'm not), but right now, in the present moment, I am good enough. I can relax. That doesn't mean that I'm not going to have goals or try to change things that I do, but right this very minute, things are not so bad.