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Originally Posted by ChipperMonkey
So instead of fighting to keep a friendship alive, you're more afraid of flattering someone by trying to contact her multiple times? I don't think this is what friendship is about TBH. It doesn't sound like this person was a close friend, or even much beyond an acquaintance. I know I'd fight to keep a good friend in my life, especially if I didn't know the reason why they're incommunicado.
This response seems a bit like a put down. You don't want this person to think that someone values her? (Stuff like this is why I gravitate toward friendships with men. They don't think like this usually.)
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I do not know this person well as a "good friend". This is not a post about a friendship gone bad. Our daughters are friends. These people live just a few houses away from us - very close. We know most of our neighbors. However, even with good friends, I would not fight to keep things going. If you have to "fight", as you put it, to keep someone in your life, that sounds like the mentality of a stalker or someone who can't let go. Just my opinion. If the other person is no longer interested, then so be it. I do NOT have to sacrifice my personal dignity to keep bugging them or begging them to talk to me. Anyone who wants me to do that is not worth my time. But I would prefer them to at least tell me that they are not interested, rather than duck and hide. I am not really interested in going over reasons why she did not contact me back.