Oh I know, believe me... I tested as anxious-preoccupied, though that was when I was in a relationship with a fearful-avoidant/anxious-avoidant person (I mention that because I do believe her avoidant nature significantly contributed to me being that way). It's sometimes referred to as the 'anxious-avoidant trap'. I've never felt crazy before, but I did in that relationship. I actually experienced very uncomfortable cognitive dissonance, and anxiety. I can see how a long-term relationship with a very avoidant person can make someone ill ...failure in communication, conflicts never get resolved, getting mixed messages all the time, not knowing what you actually mean to the other person etc etc ...ugh. I still love her to bits though, isn't that crazy? I wanted it to work out more than anything and I'm struggling to get over it. But I think the book goes some way in explaining all of that, so yes it is a really good book. Glad you like it as much as I do.

Hmm... it would be interesting to see if there's a link between attachment styles and personality disorders, and what that looks like. Like, I wonder if dismissive/avoidants have more traits that are considered to be narcissistic. I guess they would? Maybe?