let me give you an example that connects with this.

friends paid for me to have three massages....one every week. i have very specific pain issues and massage generally helps me.

the first week that i went, the therapist just started jabbering (my interpetation) away. i raised up my head and said, "i'd rather we not talk right now".......she quit. after all, we're there to work out something...(therapy or massage)...whether it be physical or emotional.....

the second week, she started in on the war!!!! i tried stopping her. it didn't work. i grew extremely tense and left in worse shape than when i got on the table. i don't want to go back. i'm going to gently suggest to her to give my friends a refund. (if she will, if not, i'll go back with earplugs ).

my point is, sometimes we have to speak up and tell someone, who is helping us, what is not helping.....it's our lives. and if this T is as good as you say, he'll halt the talking and begin asking questions and listening.

Gracey had good advice. i'm sharing with you something that has happened to me recently. xoxoxo pat

having had many massages over my lifetime, i've decided that sometimes the person is lonely and they want to make that connection with you. that is well and good (and some people welcome that), but i'm not there for an emotional connection. i am there for the physical, which brings emotional peace to me.