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Originally Posted by unaluna
In terms of what they would LIKE you to do, as far as reaching out to them, for help in meeting your goals?
My t said yesterday - somewhat ominously, it seemed to me! - that he would be thinking about me over the long holiday weekend. Recently there have been a couple of things that caused me to go catatonic (loosely speaking) and not be as productive as i could have been during time away from him. I always promise to call him if it happens again but i never do. So this morning i did text him that i accomplished some work we had discussed, and asked if it was alright if i kept him posted so we dont have a big sad surprise on monday. He texted right back (wow!) very encouragingly. So i feel like i turned a corner. But i still have a shytload of work to do here.
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This is the first time I've ever had a therapist that said it was OK to contact them. I just made a thread about this elsewhere (kind of crushing on him a bit), but he's the first one to ever tell me if I needed to reach out to do so. And it was a
small goal, but uncomfortable so I told him I didn't know if I could pull it off and he told me I could reach out. That was stunning. It's weird though because I'm SCARED to reach out because I FEEL like I burn people out. I feel like I'm a lot to take sometimes and being in therapy, not only am I getting help I need, but I also have an outlet so that I can give those close to me a break from my meltdowns.
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Originally Posted by Jaybird57
I've been seeing this therapist over the past year--not a solid year because I need to take time off, anywhere from a few weeks to four months at a time. It's just the way I do therapy--work a little, take some time off and then re-engage again to do more work. She's okay with that.
When I first started with her, she gave me her cell phone number "if I needed to call" and her email. I hate the phone. I would use her office number during the evening hours if I needed to leave her a message; I knew her office wasn't open and my call would go to her answering machine. I didn't want to get her, I just wanted to leave a message. Recently, I used her email to let her know something that bugged me during our session. I expressly asked that she not respond, that I'd discuss the issue when I came to my next session. She listened. I like that. She gets me and my need to be in control of the flow of information. She understands that I'm not looking for out of session contact that involves her active participation. I really appreciate that she and I have reached an understanding of how things are going to work during this process.
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It is so much easier for me to WRITE. I've been journaling since I'm 15 and for years that was my ONLY outlet. As I just stated above, I'm trying to make sure I don't overstep any boundaries but I can definitely relate to the not wanting the contact RIGHT NOW. With people I KNOW and I'm close to I can be on the phone all day long, but when I'm feeling bad or NEEDY I really want to hide and not talk to anybody. Swallowing all that usually leads to a conversation of me melting down on my sis.
OK. Ramble over.