Instead of making that spontaneous choice, how about if you empower your friend by asking her if she understands that you value being able to share your most intimate secrets with her, but you care about what she feels. How does SHE feel about you sharing these thoughts? Would she prefer if you got a little less heavy? Does she feel your there for her as much?

I haven't had a good friend in over 30 years Hallie. Don't just take my advice, ask your best friend how she feels.