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Originally Posted by hazn
Do you find the results to be accurate in your case? According to the quiz I'm fearful-avoidant in general, dismissive-avoidant with parents, and anxious-preoccupied in relationships. I think that probably sounds about right.
I'm still trying to understand my relationship with my parents, because it's kind of weird... I've never been able to open up to either my mum or dad. I've always assumed this was normal, but I'm starting to realise maybe it's not. It's not like they're bad parents, I've never gone through any abuse or anything like that. They're both pretty passive I guess. We all live in the same house and just do our own thing. I personally don't have anything to complain about. But for some reason I don't feel much of an emotional connection with them. None of us really communicate with one another at that level. For example, my mum is being weird lately constantly saying "I love you", and I can't even respond because it's not really something I'm used to. I end up just saying "OK" and try to brush it off; I think she knows it makes me uncomfortable so I don't know why she does it. This is going to sound terrible but it's almost like I'm thinking... why are you saying that when it's not the norm for us? As if I think she must want something from me. All of this kind of makes me worried about how I'm going to be with my kids, because it sounds very, very dysfunctional.
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I do not know. I moved out at 18. My parents still make things up about me, it's very frustrating. Im also not satisfied in my romantic relationship however I am secure in it. I don't form friendships easily now.
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I had a very frustrating situation come up with my family and I'm trying to figure out where to post about it.