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Originally Posted by Missunderstood321
Hi all! I'm new here and I am very concerned about something, but it could be my anxiety... I won't go into details but as a black woman I face racism and it does make me feel bad. It hurts my feelings. When I try to talk about it with my therapist she blows it off as if I'm imagining it. She said " I know it's real for you." This bothers me that she can't acknowledge it as a problem for me. She just wants to blame my mom for everything. Yes, my mom is a problem but has nothing to do with the prejudice and hateful remarks I receive from others.
Should I try talk about it with her or just cancel my next appointment?
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Hi, I am so sorry you feel hurt that your therapist is not acknowledging your concerns. I can imagine how disappointing and hurtful it is to not feel understood. It must be lonely to feel like even your therapist doesn't get you.
How long have you seen her for? So far, do you feel like she's been a good listener/supportive overall? Does she listen when you tell her about the hateful remarks?
I am wondering, her comment "I know it's real for you", when she said that what was her tone of voice, was it critical or empathetic? Is it possible she meant that comment in a supportive way, as in "I understand how terrible and real racism is for you", or do you think she was invalidating your feelings, saying it's only real in your head.
I can imagine how hard this is. Sending you lots of good wishes and support...
