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Originally Posted by hazn
... I can see how a long-term relationship with a very avoidant person can make someone ill ...failure in communication, conflicts never get resolved, getting mixed messages all the time, not knowing what you actually mean to the other person etc etc ...ugh. I still love her to bits though, isn't that crazy? ...
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This. SO much this. It kept bugging me so much in answering! How secure (for instance) one feels can vary wildly based on such things.
Especially when one is getting mixed and/or constantly changing messages. (And no, it's not crazy, but it feels that way.
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Originally Posted by hazn4837672
Hmmm... it would be interesting to see if there's a link between attachment styles and personality disorders, and what that looks like....
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There almost
has to be, doesn't there? Having a relationship with someone with lots of PD issues is going to affect the answers of their partner. Long before this test it was something that really struck me. For lack of a better word, let's say almost contagious. One might tend in other circumstances to feel secure (again, a for instance trait), but when the rug keeps randomly being pulled iout from under them? How can that
not affect someone?! It's destabiling. They don't call it crazy-making behavior for nothing, you know? In answering the questions it was jumping out at me. One's answers might not be so much a reflection of them personally as a reflection of their dealing with the partner's PD issues.
In long term relationships anyway. I think it's probably most accurate for those with more "data". Their answers would seem more likely to show a trend with the common denominator being themselves.
Not sure this is making any sense.