My adult daughter has a right to date, marry, or sleep with, anyone she desires. Who she dates, marries of has sex with is none of my business.

I don't have to agree. I don't have to like it.

That said, I wouldn't allow anyone into my home if he or she has stolen from me and not made amends. I think the hotel rooms being reserved in your name but you are not paying for it - it's your sons call who is in the room with him if he is paying for it.

I don't think he's blowing you off because you don't approve though. I think he's blowing you off because you are telling him that you disapprove. Over and over and over again. He knows how you feel already. He probably doesn't need to hear it again.