I've only ever told him once, not over and over. I don't even care she stole or whom he sleeps with it's the drugs I have a problem with.
I work in a public office and I can't have drugs be found in my home, car or etc. even if I come back clean I will lose my job if anyone suspected that substance was found in my home or vehicle.

I need this job to pay for my house and wedding, my fiancé works but it's not that great of a job right now.

Personally I don't care who he sleeps with, who he has in his room if my name isn't on it. I wouldn't care if I wasn't afraid that if a cleaning woman stumble upon god knows what in the room and looks it up and its in my name. It's also going on my credit care but they're giving me the money to pay for them. He expects me to take care of the rooms because I always have in the past but again I can't afford for substance to be found in a room tied to me.

It's nothing personal against the girl in question so much as not wanting everyone's life to go down the toilet over it.

As for the blowing off he isn't just doing it to me but everyone, his best friend didn't even get to see him on Christmas and I didn't get to see him at all on thanksgiving. He called said to bake him a pie and he'd be there at one and never showed. I only spoke with him once about her and I only stated that I could not have drugs in the house or my car and when I have children of my own I don't want them involved in that kind of a lifestyle.