Hi everyone,

I just wanted to share something that bothers me a lot lately.
I have an IT job. It's quite ok, but the company is not where I want to spend my life. And I could earn a lot more and lead a better life if I would become a consultant.
There's one problem there though. I did do job interviews for consultant jobs. Passed all their tests and then they asked me 'but do you think you can fit in with the style of the company?' (meaning: you should dress nicer)... I felt hurt (had put on the best clothes I have in my wardrobe) and gave up. I went to my job interviews in clothes I felt comfortable with. So I embarked on a Converse-and-jeans-journey and eventually found a job in a company that kind of accepts me the way I am. But now it's time to move on.
But I don't want to change myself, I don't want to dress myself every single day in clothes I feel awful about...

Does anyone recognize this issue? I know I'm exaggerating, but it feels as if I don't fit into this world. I try to explain everyone that I can't be a consultant and an actor at the same time. People tell me 'don't be silly, just put on the clothes and do what you have to do'. But it IS an issue for me. I'm gay and I don't feel very comfortable in very female clothing, so it just feels extra difficult to 'fit in' for me.
Now it's keeping me from being enthousiast about my job search or even to start looking for jobs. This sucks... I know I have other talents, dressing up just isn't one of them. But unfortunately an important one in today's world. Apparently.