I use Klonopin and sometimes add Benedryl for sleep, but what really relaxes me is listening to nature CDs. The one I like best is an ordinary rain storm, what you might hear on your roof at night, and is essentially just white noise. We have another that is like the ocean, and the rush of waves is really nice, but every minute or so you're jarred by the sound of hungry seagulls. Makes me want to throw rocks at the CD player. (IOW if you try this, choose your CD carefully.)